I have a friend who takes her dog EVERYWHERE — including to my tiny apartment. Whenever I invite her over, whether it’s for a dinner party or just a movie night, the dog comes too, often completely unannounced. I don’t hate dogs, and I don’t think of myself as a really uptight person, but having a 35-pound bulldog running around in my small, non-dog-friendly apartment just makes me nervous. I’m afraid the dog will knock something over, or destroy something, or get into something he shouldn’t. My friend just dismisses these concerns, saying that her dog is very well behaved (he isn’t). How do I tell her — nicely — that the dog isn’t welcome?

Sincerely,

Done with the dog