My boyfriend and I live very close to each other, and over the past month I’ve just sort of stopped going home. I’ve been slowly moving my essentials to his place and now he’s suggesting I Airbnb or sublet my apartment until my lease is up and move all my things over. I love him, I love coming home to him every day, and our home is incredibly happy. However, we’ve been dating less than a year and a small part of me is wondering if this is a good idea. Even though it’s been a very easy and organic transition, I spent years fighting to get away from roommates and to live alone. My tiny little studio represents a lot of struggle and achievement for me, but paying rent on a space that’s unused also seems unwise.

I’ve never lived with a significant other before and I’m in uncharted waters here, I just don’t know what’s the love drugs and what is actually rational. Not to mention I’m a modern, strong, independent young lady living in NYC: we simply do not move in with our boyfriends of less than a year, that’s insane. I’m a planner and a to-do list maker by nature, and while this wasn’t on the Goals for This Year list, can “it just works, I’m happy, and I want this” possibly be good enough reasons to let go of my apartment? Is there a magical formula for when it’s ok to move in together?

Thanks,

Too Good to be True